The Outburst
The person feeling anger responds with short, highly charged, emotinoal explosions, usually blaming the other person. Afterwards, there is calmness, and the person who displayed the outburst hopes all is forgiven. He or she would have you believe the outburst is simply a way of letting off steam and that it’s nothing personal.
The Silent Treatments
The angry person turns cold and punishes the “transgressor” through silence and obvious rejection.
Bringing Up the Past
The angry preson brings up past events that were hurtful and directs attention away from the current issues to that of rehashing the past. The issue causing the anger is lost as attention turns to past injustices.
Social Aggression
This angry person does not state why he or she is angry but rather turns the anger into aggressive actions, making hurtful or cynical remarks, often times in social settings. When asked what is wrong, the response is usually, “Nothing." The other person has no idea why he or she is under attack.
Using Minor Irritations
The angry person repeatedly starts fights and arguments over minor irritations (e.g. forgetting to turn the lights off, forgetting to close doors). The minor problems are cause for constant criticism. The real issue causing the anger is masked.
Collecting Social Allies
The angry person mobilizes support for his or her side. He or she talks about how victimized he or she is to other people. This person is very good at getting other people involved and putting them in the middle of the conflict. This can also be evidenced through a quick sentence during a conversation such as, “Well, Jason doesn’t think so. His parents don’t seem to care.”